Emotions can be messy things, and when you have difficulty getting in touch with them, they can make your life a mess.
That’s because if you don’t acknowledge them, and stay with them long enough to name them and to comprehend how they’re affecting your life, they’ll do nothing but continue to sabotage you.
Besides being messy, emotions can be scary. Overwhelming, disruptive, and inappropriate are just a few words to describe how emotions can get expressed.
And then there are the ones you just don’t want to feel.
Yet, by denying, suppressing and ignoring them, you’re actually make a slave of yourself to them, and you’re denying yourself a deeper and more freeing life experience.
So what to do?
Stay with yourself and your emotions. Don’t run away. Stay and let them in – a little bit at a time because you don’t want to be overwhelmed.
Keep your breathing as regular and deep as you can.
Stay with yourself and sense how you’re feeling.
Can you put a name to it? Does the name resonate or fall flat?
If it resonates, gauge how big or little that feeling was. If it felt small, try related words or open yourself up a little more to what you’re feeling.
You can even ask your feelings to name themselves.
Stay with your emotions and keep naming all the parts of them. There will come a time that you realize that your naming has been successful, and the emotions that were pushing for attention have been suitably expressed.
Staying with yourself and your emotions is not easy, but it becomes easier with practice.
Sometimes all you can do is Stay and Breathe and let your feelings simply flow through you like the clouds flow across the sky. And that’s fine too.
Trust yourself and do what’s needful for you at that time.
The Staying and Naming technique is the third step in How to Get Rid of Anxiety and Panic Attacks Naturally