When you look back on the hurts you experienced as a child, do you wish you could just put your arms around that child and tell them they were loved, and were enough just as they were?
Other people may not have seen you as being enough – but the truth is you are, you always were, and you always will be.
The child that you were, the teenager, and even your adult-self need to hear that.
Other people may not have been able to give yourself the love you needed, but you can.
With this technique you can do it for the person you were at every age.
The phrase you’re going to use is, “I love you. You’re enough.”
Begin by imagining yourself as a baby in your mother’s womb, and say those words to that baby: “I love you. You’re enough.”
Then imagine yourself as a newborn, then as a one-year old, a two-year old, etc. all the way up to your present age. For each one, tell that child, teenage and adult: “I love you. You’re enough.”
When you reach your current age, look at yourself in the mirror, and tell yourself “I love you. You’re enough.”
Whether you can remember yourself at various ages or not doesn’t matter. Just going back to the beginning and telling yourself at each age that you’re loved and acceptable just as you were is what works.
If and when you begin recalling memories and you’re tempted to start judging yourself, put those to the side. Instead focus on letting your love and compassion flow to that person you once were because they really need it – and they need it from you.
With this technique you’re generating acceptance and compassion for yourself. If you’re finding that difficult to do, then begin with the Feel the Loving Kindness practice.